“I’m so sorry, they went with another offer.” It’s a shocking thing to hear; you’ve
already moved into that dream home in your mind. It’s common to start second
guessing yourself, even condemning yourself for not offering more money or
better terms, but the truth is sometimes it just doesn’t work out. The next step is
to figure out how to move on.
• Go Ahead and Mourn – It’s perfectly reasonable to mourn the loss of the
• Take a Break – This might not be as easy as it sounds if you need to move,
but even a short weekend off to regroup and refresh will allow you to
continue the search.
• Understand What Went Wrong – It may be that you did nothing wrong and
the seller got an all-cash offer 20% over asking, but it’s still a good idea to
talk with your agent about your offer, make sure you truly offered a fair
price with reasonable terms and if not, make adjustments next time.
• List What You Liked About the Home – Make a list of the features you liked
about the home – open floor plan, big yard, expansive view, etc. This will
allow you to watch for these features as you continue the search.
Losing out on your dream home is sad, but it doesn’t mean you won’t find
another home you love just as much. Take some time to think through the
experience and keep going – there are so many homes to choose from, you’ll find
another home to love.